Updated on October 3, 2022

5 Online Dating Tips for Introverts

Introverts find it hard to socialize in real life.

So it's expected that their social skills are an even bigger problem when they try to meet online.

I actually applaud those who still try because online dating is indeed a great way to meet someone but can be quite difficult for an introvert. 

And if you really think about it, it's actually great for introverts to meet people online so they don't need to get anxious about physical meet ups.

If you're an introvert and you want to get started on socializing via online dating sites, here are 5 tips that will surely work.

Look for Fellow Introverts

It will be easier for you to talk to someone online or score a potential partner if you look for someone who is a fellow introvert.

Extroverts can be too much sometimes and although they mean no harm, they kind of drain your energy way too much and you feel like you don't want to socialize anymore.

Introverts are open these days so you won't have problems spotting one.

They usually place in their dating profile bio that they are introverts so they attract the same kind and have higher chances matching with someone.

Usually these are people who don't have many photos of themselves in social engagements; so no pool parties or mosh pits. They also would include photos of reflective activities like hiking, traveling alone, meditation, yoga and the like.

But if you find someone introverted, try your best to find the courage to start the conversation as the other person might actually be more introverted than you are.

You don't want that match to go to waste.

Be Specific with Your Interests

Whether is rewatching Harry Potter or having a specific time of the day when you wanna soak in the sun, don't hesitate to put these details on your website.

It will be easier for you to connect to someone if you have an activity you can share. And as an introvert, the things you like to do may not be what others like to do but at least you get those people out of the way.

I mean, do you really want to date someone who isn't really into your obsession with cats?

Being generic on a dating website is the worst thing that you can do.

The same way that sounding too different can be bad for you. So the best way to do write your bio is to really sit down and list down things that truly interest you; things that you can talk about for hours

Use Humor

Humor is always appreciated whether you are an introvert or not.

The same way that a sense of humor is always an attractive trait. You probably have a dark humor yourself and have a few inside jokes about being an introvert.

We always love to pick on ourselves, admit it. What's your most embarrassing introvert moment?


Remember that a sense of humor is so much more than just being the class clown. I mean, we don't want that kind of attention.

It's about laughing at ourselves based on our perception of humanity and the people that surround us. It's about being able to laugh about how uncomfortable something is for us.

Moreover, it's about being authentic to ourselves.

Compatibility Based Websites

Technology is so advanced these days that dating websites can actually up the chances of you matching with someone.

All you need to do is to ensure that you write a good dating profile.

Upon sign up, dating websites are going to ask you for information like your name, age, status, etc. It's also going to ask you for the demographics and psychographics of the people you want to meet.

So if for instance you want to meet someone male from 30 to 35 years old who loves dogs, live less than a 10 mile radius from you and finds the time to go the beach every weekend, it is very, very possible.

The success rate of compatibility websites is no joke.

A lot of people have attested to finding the love of their lives online and you could do. And, as an added tip, don't forget the law of averaging - you are going to get more chances of winning if you swipe right more.

So don't lose hope and just keep on trying.

Bend a Little Bit

As an introvert, you know how hard it is to find someone to get along with but you, of all people, should know that not everyone is the same.

Even if you find someone who is magically compatible with you and who seems like he was sent down from heaven, there are still going to be some quirks that you might not fancy.

A classic example would be that your newly found introverted friend might not feel like socializing or talking some days and you're gonna have to give them some space.

Remember that as people, not even as introverts, we're all required to move out of our comfort zone from time to time so that other people may also feel comfortable.


Before you begin your online dating journey, condition yourself because you will meet many people that may not be your cup of tea.

Also practice proper online dating etiquette like not asking too many personal questions at the onset of your meet up. I won't speak like this activity is 100% fun. There are still people you really need to avoid. So be careful.

Just unmatch or block and move on from any of these bad experiences. Because if you find the one, it will all be worth it!

So what are you waiting for?

Take your best outfit, pucker up, look for the best lighting and start taking some great dating website profiles.

Which reminds us, you'll want to check out our post on taking that perfect dating profile picture.

It's a great resource for all you introverts out there that squirm at the ideas of selfies!

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